She wants it all
She’s always taking something
And now I’m left with nothing
I’m ripping off, oh
I’m ripping off that bandage
Because I just can’t stand it
When I first heard “The Summer’s Gonna Hurt” by Maroon 5 I had a gut feeling that he was right! I’m not alone in this feeling either. I’d like to talk about what happens when you or a loved one goes through a life-altering change that they may not have seen coming. Or maybe they did, and they have spent the last few years trying their best to mend what was broken. Divorce stinks!
This change affects many facets of a person’s life such as financial, family and social aspect’s. Not to mention the number it does on your emotional well-being to say the least. If that was not enough, your home environment talks a beating too. Suddenly you’re living with less and all your old things no longer work in your new space. Emptiness, beat-down and broken is more than likely the feeling your new home may reflect. Don’t worry you have control over your new environment to you gain back your strength.
I see the spot every day, and it reminds me of her and I’m done with it. Every time I walk in here I see HER” my client expressed to me with frustration as he pointed out a stain in the wood of the headboard of his bed. An item he inherited in the divorce and can no longer tolerate.
Over the summer, I had many conversations with my friends and client’s who are recovering from this life changing situation.That’s what inspired me to write about how interior design relates to divorce. Here are some things to consider when you’re building your new nest.
First off BREATH! Know that it will all be okay and that bigger things are in store for you! Stay active and know that your will have your good days and bad days. Over time, the good will outweigh the bad. It just takes time.
Then decide what your top priorities are. Ask yourself these questions:
- What room do I want to have done first, second, third and so on?
- What can stay and what needs to go?
- Do I have a single color theme?
- Does this still work for me?
Next, take inventory of what you have and make note of what you want to keep and toss out. Either donate items or have a sale, so you can have money to apply the funds towards your new decor. Go room by room based off your priority list. This way you avoid getting overwhelmed mentally and financially.
Lastly, size and scale of your new pieces do matter. If you’re going to be living in a smaller place for a 2-5 years then keep in mind you may not want to spend so much money on furnishings that are temporary. Should you do invest in a higher price furnishings, then make sure you can use it in more than one room when you move on to your larger house in the future. One more thing to consider are items that pull double duty.
Create and Barrel offers a few great apartment size sofa’s at good price points
West Elm has great pieces like this coffee table that offers storage, a lap top work surface or a great place to host dinner for one on a Netfix movie night
Here’s the good news! You now have a fresh start. It’s time to express your personal style and taste. If you’re into a bold color scheme now is the time to do it. Your home should be a place of refuge and where you can entertain your family and friends.
In the end, it’s about surrounding yourself with the ones who have stuck by you through it all. Allow the time to heal and lean into the curve a bit. Your home is a place where you should be able to replenish what was taken from you. You new dwelling needs to be a comfortable, soothing environment for the healing process to take place. I can’t stress this enough. So make YOU a priority and be happy.