We are less than a week away from Valentine’s Day, and I had a thought in the spirit of the 50 Shades of Gray Movie coming out on the 14th. I wanted to ask is your bedroom killing your mojo?
Our environments have a lot to do with how we feel and are affected by them. So when it comes to your bedroom how would you rate it? Does its support or hurt your relationship?
First is to de-clutter, as a busy working mom I know that chores are always going to be there, so the act of service from either partner can be foreplay. Like putting the dishes away or making dinner, while the other cleans up. Helping each other out is essential to letting your partner know you’re on the same team. Don’t let the clutter bugs overstay their welcome in your bedroom. A pile of unfolded clothes left on the bed or draped over an old workout machine or chair this will most certainly kill the mood.
Next let’s talk about the sense of smell. The most inviting smells are often those of baked goods. Think pumpkin pie, cinnamon, vanilla, and lavender all are smells that are meant to get the libido revved up. Ask your partner what they like in particular and cater to it.
Now, let’s move on and I mean for REAL! Do you still have old photos of your “ex” up in your room? Having old archives of times past will most defiantly take the wind out the sails of your new relationship. It was rumored that Sofia Vergara quickly ditched all items and photos of her “ex” when she invited her now fiancé Joe Manganiello over for one of their first visits. The point is that you have to be open and ready to receive the new energy. Your environment won’t lie.
Lastly take the time for each other and unplug. Turn off the TV, cell phone, and any other electronic devices for a moment. I know a lot of you have TV’s in the bedroom, and I’m not saying you should toss it. However, you should try leaving if OFF for one night and just “be” in the moment with your partner. So many times we get into a bad habit of being plugged in that we forget to communicate with our loved ones. We miss out on the chance for the intimate connection. And I’m talking about the sex! Get your mind out of the gutter, but if it leads to that then, hey that’s a bonus! Better than a late night TV re-run anyway right?
Try this Love Dare for me since I’m unable to at the moment: Military you know…
Do something unexpected this Valentines and dine-in with a candle lit dinner, a nice bottle of wine or champagne and relax at home. Draw a warm bath or prepare for body message. The power of touch and communication is oh so inviting. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse, (partner) better. Perhaps in areas you’ve never actually talked about. Determine to make this enjoyable for you and your mate.
Ask them questions start with these or come up with your own:
Ask them what their greatest hopes and dreams are?
How do they prefer to give and receive love
What are some things you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the opportunity yet?
What do you enjoy the most about your life right now?
What do enjoy the least about your life right now?
Love is a choice, not feeling. It is an initiated action, not an impulsive reaction. When you choose to commit to someone, you lead your heart even when times are hard. You stay committed and say to them “I will love you. Period. And no matter what you do, I will never stop loving you”.
I have chosen the faithful way (Psalm 119:30)
Happy Valentine’s Day